I am struggling with how to handle this situation. My husband and I have been married for 44 years, and we have one son who is married with a grandson. Five years ago, we decided to move closer to our son’s family to be near our grandson.

"It’s reached the point where I’m seriously considering divorce, as I no longer want to live with this constant tension and misery."

Dear Annie: I have a difficult and deeply personal situation, and I would really appreciate your advice. My husband of two years left me on April 14, 2023, saying he wanted to build a home for us in California. The problem is, he made this decision without my knowledge or consent, and it feels like he abandoned me.

"At times, I find myself wanting revenge for the way he’s treated me, but I always calm myself down, realizing that it wouldn’t fix anything or make me feel better in the long run."

Adding to this, my husband strongly dislikes our son’s mother-in-law, which he has made very clear to me. He refuses to attend holiday dinners if she will be there. Our daughter